Know Your Self Posts

What is Emotional Reactivity and How to End the Cycle

What is Emotional Reactivity? When we feel stressed, angry, or hurt, we tend to react impulsively. We are in a state of fight-or-flight and tend to react emotionally, that is, ...

How to Let Go of the Expectations of Others

5 Tips for Rebooting Your Brain

How to be less emotional

What is Emotional Reactivity and How to End the Cycle

What is Emotional Reactivity? When we feel stressed, angry, or hurt, we tend to react impulsively. We are in a state of fight-or-flight and tend to react emotionally, that is, ...

Understanding Hyper-Independence: Is It a Trauma Response?

Is your desire for independence actually a coping mechanism? Uncover the connection between trauma and hyper-independence, learn how to recognize hyper-independence and seek help when needed. How Trauma Can Trigger ...

How to Let Go of the Expectations of Others

You can certainly benefit from the input of others, but not if it means squishing your inner voice. Your life is yours and yours only. You are in the best position to know what is best for you. Don’t let the expectations of others get in the way of being true to who you are.

Understanding Deflection in Psychology and Effective Ways to Respond

Explore the concept of deflection in psychology and learn effective strategies to address this defense mechanism. Deflection is a common psychological defense mechanism used to evade difficult conversations or uncomfortable ...

5 Tips for Rebooting Your Brain

We have the ability to “reboot” our brains and make new neural pathways. Let’s explore some techniques to empower your brain to reset itself.

Embracing Inner Child Work: Reparent and Heal Your Inner Child

Introduction to Inner Child Work As you journey through life, you may find that you’re not quite living up to your full potential. Perhaps you struggle with relationships, feel emotionally ...

How to be less emotional

If you are wondering how to be less emotional, you might have realized that living at the mercy of intense negative emotions such as anxiety, stress, fear or anger is ...

5 Journaling Exercises to Get to Know Yourself a Lot Better

We often can’t explain our own feelings. We may see ourselves act or respond or feel a certain way, but we don’t really know why. While certain mental illnesses are ...

Hurt Feelings and Repairing Relationship

When someone hurts our feelings, most of us acquired a defense mechanism that attempts to make us feel better by making others feel bad. This defense mechanism might operate a ...

Spotting your "Anger Iceberg" Can Help Prevent Your Mood from Sinking

We’ve all been there. You’re on your way out the door and your sweater catches on a doorknob, thrusting you backward. It’s a little thing, but you’re absolutely furious. In ...

Getting Over Negative Self-Talk

All humans experience some variation of negative self-talk, and if we listen to it, that voice can bring us down. But we don’t have to let it hold us back. The voice can be tamed, become quieter and less intrusive.

How to Release Anger

If you wish to release anger and not let it control you, I congratulate you. While anger is a natural emotion, uncontrollable anger can substantially hurt your own health and ...

Break Free of Confirmation Bias & Limited Beliefs

The idea of confirmation bias gets a lot of attention these days, but there’s not much discussion about the ways it can impact our mental health. Confirmation bias is the ...

TRAUMA—YOURS AND EVERYONE ELSE’S

No matter how hard we try to create a world for ourselves that is rational, predictable, and under our control, things still go wrong. Reality is unpredictable and lacks regard for our feelings. Traumas, big and small, repeatedly interfere with our lives.